Aquarius Man Personality Traits, Love Compatibility, and Dating Advice

Astrology can help us understand more about ourselves and the people we love/date/hopelessly crush on—no matter their gender. For more deets on Virgo compatibility, check out our guide to dating an Aquarius woman and our gender-neutral guide to dating an Aquarius.

There are just a few basics that need to be explored when you first start dating someone. Where is he from? What does he do for a living? Oh, and most definitely, when’s his birthday? This isn’t just for remembering when to send that “happy b-day :)” text! Knowing a potential boo’s zodiac sign can really help in understanding his behavior. Astrology helps us break down personality traits, pet peeves, and, yes, even dating patterns. It can be fun and informative to look up his sign and see how yours works with his.

If you’re dating, Insta stalking (hi, guilty), or just fantasizing over an Aquarius man, we’re here to help you navigate him. These water bearers are sometimes seen as aloof loners, but they really just value their me-time and march to the beat of their own drum.

Luckily, astrology allows us to decipher personality traits, pet peeves, and so much more. And trust me when I say, there is sooo much more to an Aquarius man than you initially realized. So if your guy was born between January 20 and February 18, you’re in for a treat, but as it goes with any sign, there are some things you may want to keep an eye out for. Oh, and BTW, if your guy’s Moon or Rising sign is Aquarius, these descriptions might ring true, too.

The Aquarius Basics

Birthday: January 20 to February 18

Modality: Fixed

Element: Air

Ruling planet: Saturn (traditional) and Uranus (modern)

Represented by: The water bearer

Tarot card: The Star

Best crystals: Morganite, sunstone, sodalite, amethyst, sapphire

Keywords: Friendly, unique, geeky, intellectual, complex, offbeat, humanitarian, aloof, smart, one-of-a-kind

Love anthem: “Adore You,” by Harry Styles

Watch this romance movie together: Her (2013), directed by Spike Jonze

Famous Aquarius men: Harry Styles, Michael B. Jordan, Michael Jordan, The Weeknd, Darren Criss, Ashton Kutcher, Taylor Lautner, Joseph Gordon-Levitt, Elijah Wood, Christian Bale, Justin Timberlake, Cristiano Renaldo, Chris Rock, Tom Hiddleston, Ed Sheeran, J-Hope, Gucci Mane, Tom Hiddleston, Evan Peters

An Aquarius Man’s Best Traits

Here’s the thing about an Aquarius man: He makes you feel comfortable. He has major best friend energy! You’ll always have fun together, and he knows how to make you feel at home. And there’s a lot to like about him, too: He’s creative, smart, and tapped into social causes. Aquarius is sometimes described as “a rebel with a cause” because he’s so passionate about whatever the movement close to his heart is—whether it’s his labor union or his neighborhood community garden.

An Aquarius Man’s Worst Traits

It might seem contradictory, but even though Aquarius makes you feel at home, he can sometimes struggle to open up. He can be guarded and standoffish, especially with people he doesn’t know very well. And, well, he isn’t the most in touch with his emotions—he’s an intellectual air sign, not a sensitive water sign, after all. At his worst, an Aquarius man can seem like a bit of a robot. Oh, and that “rebel with a cause” thing—standing up for something you care about is a great trait, but sometimes Aquarius could learn to choose his battles.

The Best Matches for an Aquarius Man

Aquarius gets along great with Gemini and Libra. They are both air signs and can keep up with each other’s mental pace. As they’re the same element, they “speak the same language”—basically, they just ~get~ each other. Gemini encourages Aquarius to be more playful, while Libra brings out Aquarius’s social side.

Aries is another awesome match for Aquarius. Aquarius is endlessly fascinating to passionate Aries, so the fire sign’s interest is never lost. They both appreciate uniqueness and understand the other’s need for space. Similarly, Aquarius is fascinated by another fire sign, Sagittarius. Both Sag and Aqua are fiercely independent and dedicated to learning, although Sag tends to be much more impulsive than calm, cool, and collected Aquarius.

Yet another fire sign, outgoing Leo has an opposites-attract style chemistry with Aquarius—they’re opposites on the zodiac wheel, in fact. Leo encourages Aquarius to stand out, while Aquarius teaches Leo the importance of community.

And finally, who’s a better match for Aquarius than a fellow Aquarius? With their brainpower and offbeat interests combined, these two will never get bored.

The Worst Matches for an Aquarius Man

Aquarius is a fixed sign, which means they’re loyal, independent, and stubborn as hell…not exactly a recipe for getting along with the two other notoriously stubborn fixed signs, Taurus and Scorpio. There’s just too much fixed energy here! (Leo is also a fixed sign but is more of a complement to Aquarius.)

That said, having incompatible Sun signs doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed—it just means you might have to put in a little work to really ~get~ each other. And compatibility is about so much more than your Sun sign anyway, so if your Moon signs or another part of your birth charts mesh well, you might be an astrologically blessed match anyway.

But even if your birth chart is full of Taurus placements, if you make an effort to understand your Aquarius boo—and vice versa—you can have a great relationship too. And TBH, ~astrological tension~ can often lead to ~sexual tension~, so there’s something to be said for “incompatibility”!

Sex with an Aquarius Man

As the zodiac sign most associated with science and technology, you know that an Aquarius man has an extensive collection of sex toys and sexcessories, and maybe a fondness for virtual reality porn as well. As the innovators of the zodiac, Aquariuses are always down to try something new in bed—in fact, they would prefer it. Repetition is boring!

Your Aquarius man is also likely a little kinky, especially if it involves ~exploring the taboo~ or creating some sexy distance between you, like role playing that you’re two strangers, or wearing a blindfold. But honestly, whatever kink strikes your interest, there’s no better sign than Aquarius to try it out with!

A First Date with An Aquarius Man

Your Aquarius man wants you to know that he’s ~not like other boys~. He’s edgy! He’s a nonconformist! He doesn’t want to see a movie and have dinner together, he wants to…take a ride in a hot-air ballon! Sew patches on your denim jackets together! Go get spontaneous tattoos! Treat your Aquarius man like the rebel he (thinks he) is, and he’ll be happy. The weirder and more out-there your date suggestion, the better.

An Aquarius Man at Home

You might think an Aquarius’s home would be full of skulls and circuit boards, but these dudes are actually pretty minimalist. Like, their home probably reminds you of an Apple Store… but with a big, comfy bed perfect for trying out complicated sex positions. Check out his bookshelf or record or DVD collection, though, and you’ll get some insight into his interests and personality.

An Aquarius Man at the Office

Aquarius can be kind of a loner at work, but everyone is in awe of their *amazing* ideas. Seriously, it’s like they walk around with a lightbulb permanently over their head. Even though sometimes their suggestions are a little, um, offbeat, Aquarius always comes up with something creative. He’s always the innovator!

An Aquarius Man with Friends

Aquarius can be a bit guarded, so he likely only has a few besties that he *really* lets in….even if he has a wide circle of admiring acquaintances. In fact, as an air sign, Aquarius is naturally social, but they’re happiest when they’re socializing for a cause. Think: Being active in their local mutual aid group, rather than going out to happy hour.

An Aquarius Man’s Sense of Style

An Aquarius man’s fashion sense is likely to fit one of two extremes… either he hardly ever thinks about clothes and has a “uniform” he wears every day, or he’s endlessly creative with fashion and always trying out (or setting!) a new trend, like famous Aquarians Harry Styles and Gucci Mane.

Traveling with an Aquarius Man

Aquarius loves traveling, but he doesn’t want to go somewhere that his friends have gone before. He does not want to go to Paris! And if he does go to Paris, he does not want to see the Eiffel Tower! His dream vacay might be somewhere like the Galapagos Islands, a place with such diverse wildlife that it was instrumental in inspiring Darwin’s theory of evolution.

A Gift for an Aquarius Man

Get your Aquarius man a gift that will stimulate ~his mind~. Tech gadgets are always a good bet, as is a book about whatever his current favorite topic is (crypto? ska? urban gardening?). A donation to a cause close to his heart will also endear you to him. And hey, you can’t go wrong with an experiential gift, like signing up for a class together or planning a weekend vacay.

All About Aquarius

Aquarius is an air sign, meaning he’s intellectual, thoughtful, charismatic, and an expert communicator. He’s also the sign most associated with platonic relationships and eccentricity, so it’s like dating your weirdo best friend! Everyone is attracted to his unique and unconventional nature because he’s ruled by Uranus, the planet of suddenness, invention, and disruption.

His unapologetic self-expression is why he’s known to break the status quo frequently and often, making him the zodiac’s humanitarian…and its rebel with a cause. If you want to get with an unforgettable guy, find yourself an Aquarius! He may be a total nerd, but he’s charming and complex, and he has an open mind and heart.

It’s uncommon to find an Aquarius guy actively pursuing romantic interests on dating apps. Since he’s an air sign, he is a total people person and prioritizes finding close friendships over relationships, which is why you have to genuinely be his bud before dating possibly enters the equation. He’s self-conscious about being an oddball, so it takes him a while to open up to you, but once he does, you’ll find he’s worth the wait!

He also puts a ton of importance on his community. If his family or friends don’t like you, you have a maaajor problem. In fact, don’t be surprised if he introduces you to his crew relatively early, because they’re just that important to him. The Spice Girls lyric “If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends” works well as an Aquarius motto. (And FYI, Baby Spice is an Aquarius.)

As a reliable fixed sign, this guy is your rock and you’ll learn to love how he’s always able to be there for you when you need it. He’ll gladly listen to your problems and work to give you the best advice. Because he can detach and view things objectively, you always know he’s keeping it real. To top it all off, his natural quirkiness and great sense of humor make everything better, and just like a true best friend, he’s always there by your side through thick and thin.

As an air sign, he’s upbeat and social, but as a fixed sign, he’s a big fan of relaxing and staying in one place as much as he can. This combo is contradictory, sure, but so is Aquarius! Honestly, it’s the best of both worlds: He’s the life of the party whenever he goes out, but he’s also down to mega chill out at home.

Something that will always rile him up, however, is whatever cause he’s devoted himself to. If he hears of a rally or protest, he’ll put everything else on pause so he can attend—and he’ll want to bring you along too. If you’re not politically knowledgable and involved in activism, that’s kind of a turn-off for Aquarius. As calm as he is most of the time, he’s passionate when it matters most. And he cares that you care too. He wants someone who shares his passion for creating worldwide change who can also keep him intellectually interested.

That being said, your Aquarius boy toy is kind of like Siri. He’s super smart, ultramodern, and programmed with fascinating traits. But at the end of the day, he can be such a robot! His supercomputer of a brain is the source of his best traits but also the reason he intellectualizes and processes his emotions rather than expressing them. He easily detaches from his feelings, so your relationship will be lacking when it comes to lovey-dovey moments. And don’t even try to push him to be more romantic or intimate—he’s a fixed sign with unmatched stubbornness, so he won’t budge.

Aquarius men also tend to cause a commotion wherever they go. He’s ruled by Uranus, planet of disruption, after all, but that doesn’t justify how much he loves to showboat himself. He’s both hyper aware of how different he is and readily hamming it up front of others for validation. He sometimes adopts a contrary nature just for the sake of being different, it seems, especially when he’s in a bad mood. You say yes and he says no, just to make a point of not following the status quo. Don’t let his insecurities and sour attitude turn a simple disagreement into an actual argument—this undesirable aspect of his personality rarely comes out.

The best advice? Treat him like your best friend who you love but sometimes get SO annoyed with. After all, he treats everyone like his friend, including you, so it only makes sense. But he more than makes up for this lack of romance with his never-ending commitment to his loved ones and his unforgettable presence. Your relationship with him has a very complex dynamic—it feels like you’re with your bestie most of the time, but there’s a very real sense of love and affection as well. You won’t be getting a dreamy fairy-tale romance, but his long-lasting love and dedication to you promises you’ll still get your happy ending!

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